At a school event last week, the woman sitting next to me - a neighbor, though not one I know all that well - wondered if I wanted to scrapbook with her daughter. "You are such a girly-girl!" she says. Huh? I must have looked puzzled because she elaborated, "It's not that you can't do sporty, but you are so girly.."
I'm still puzzling over this one. What is a girly girl? Are there only girly girls and sporty girls? What about the geeky girls? Somehow my interest in quantum mechanics (of which the neighbor is unaware) doesn't seem all that "girly" but I don't really think that quantum is just for guys either.
I asked Barnacle Boy and Crash for their opinion. The Boy: "Anyone who discusses electromagnetic radiation on a car trip with her sons in not a girly-girl." [Note, we did have two such conversations last week!] Crash: "No way."
I may now have a more intimate and personal grasp of identity politics. Who do you think I am?